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You know that feeling when you'd rather do anything except log into your bank account? Or when you tell yourself you'll deal with the taxes later, because later feels so much easier than now?

Here's something that might catch you on guard: that avoidance isn't protecting you at all.

Your nervous system learned somewhere along the way that money feels unsafe. So it built a wall to keep you from going there. But that wall is actually the thing keeping you stuck in the same cycle, over and over.

In this episode...

🧬 Why avoiding your money doesn't make you lazy or bad at it – it's actually your nervous system trying to protect you

🗝️ The one thing mantras, affirmations, and good intentions can never do for your money story

💔 The surprising parallel between how you handle money and how you show up in your closest relationships

🔥 The real path out of the avoidance cycle – and why it doesn't require perfection

🚀 A five-day shift that's already helped over 1,500 people build a new relationship with their money

By the end of this drop, you'll understand exactly why you've been avoiding what you've been avoiding, and why that's not a character flaw. You'll walk away with a clear next step to start building trust with your money instead of dreading it.

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Avoiding your money isn't protecting you. I know that sounds obvious when you hear it out loud. But so many people have an unconscious assumption running underneath this, one that keeps the avoidance cycle going.

I've seen this play out over and over with clients, especially back when I was a tax preparer. And I lived it myself too.

Why Your Nervous System Is the One Driving This

Here's the real reason behind the avoidance. If you find yourself regularly avoiding the money stuff, it's because your nervous system is protecting you from times you've leaned in, faced it, and felt unsafe or incompetent because of it.

Maybe you've even felt straight up panicked and in survival mode over money before.

So is it any surprise that after experiences like that, you don't want to go back there? Your logical brain probably knows this isn't going to be a repeat of last time. But knowing that doesn't stop you from avoiding it anyway.

The Cycle That Keeps You Stuck

Here's the trap. Because you avoid it, things pile up. And because things pile up, it becomes a nightmare when you finally do lean in. That nightmare becomes the proof your brain uses to justify avoiding it next time.

It becomes this loop where you tell yourself, "This is always such a pain," without ever questioning why.

I've also been on the other side of this, both in my own life and with the people I coach. Getting to the other side means doing the hard thing instead of choosing the easy button. It means leaning in, looking, and building proof that it won't be the same as it was before.

You can't get there through mantras or affirmations, no matter how well-intentioned. The only way through is new action. You have to start showing up for your money differently.

If you've been around my work for any length of time, you know my favorite metaphor for this is attachment theory, the same patterns that show up in our intimate relationships. Something similar is likely playing out for you with money.

What I Used To Do With My Own Money

For me, this played out through knowing there was always a tax season windfall coming. Because I knew the money would show up eventually, I never set anything aside for taxes. I never built a regular practice. I just racked up credit cards until the windfall came in, and that became normal for me.

Looking at it honestly, it didn't feel good. It felt like I was bad at money. But it worked, so I kept feeding the pattern by looking away instead of looking right at it.

The problem is, doing money that way meant I couldn't build a future. I couldn't be intentional about what I was creating. I was single at the time, and once I became a wife and a mom, that pattern wasn't going to work anymore. I had to change.

I was also being a bit of a hypocrite, teaching people to be better with money when I wasn't proud of how I was handling my own.

The Only Way Out

I know it might sound like I'm wrapping this up too neatly by saying all I had to do was look at it. But that's genuinely what shifted things for me. Once I was willing to be honest about what I was doing to keep the pattern going, the way out lit up.

Now, the way I handle money feels right. I'm not saying I'm rolling in it. I'm still building this new way of doing things. But every time I show up intentionally, eyes open, it feels good.

This is why so much of my work isn't actually about how much you make, even though that often improves too. It's about how you feel about your relationship with money, because that feeling is what determines whether you'll keep showing up. Same as in any relationship you're committed to.

It's Not Laziness, and You're Not Doomed

Being avoidant with your money doesn't mean any of the things you've judged yourself for. It doesn't mean you're bad at it. Most people were never taught how to be any other way with money.

It's not laziness. What it actually takes to show up for your money well isn't hard to do. And it doesn't mean you're doomed. This is shiftable. This is changeable. I've done it, and I've seen so many people just like you do it too.

It's wired protection, and it will keep operating that way until you decide to lean in and create safety for yourself around it.

The Cosmic Money Reset Challenge

This is exactly why I created the Cosmic Money Reset Challenge, now in its fourth season. I've supported over 1,500 people before you in making this shift, using five simple things over five days, guided by five different planets.

You'll look at what you've been avoiding. You'll interrupt the pattern and show yourself you have agency to set the direction for your future financial decisions. You'll get clear on exactly where you are now and map out where you're heading. You'll start establishing the kind of relationship with money that supports the life you actually want to live.

There's nothing you need to fit into your calendar. Each day, you'll get the materials and can engage at your own pace, then come back to the group to share and see other people making this shift right alongside you.

We start July 20th. Register to join us here.