You know that feeling of chasing something you want so badly it aches? Eyes locked on where you're headed, measuring the gap, wishing you were already there.

Here's what most of us forget. Being fixated on where you want to go is only half of it.

The other half? Being just as settled into where you are right now. Not as a consolation prize. As the actual thing that collapses the distance.

In this drop, you'll hear the moment this clicked for me in the front seat of my car, and why peace with the present might be the missing piece you've been overlooking.

In this drop:

🔮 The feeling state that makes "it's on its way to me" go from hollow mantra to bone-deep knowing

🪞 Why fixating on the finish line can actually keep you stuck (and what to do instead)

💫 The vision I had before I met my husband, and how it showed up down to the smallest detail

💸 Why right relationship with money isn't a place you arrive, it's an orientation you keep returning to

🗝️ The one thing every real shift in your life has required first, whether it's money, healing, or a relationship

If you've been calling something in and wondering why it keeps eluding you, this one's for you. By the end you'll know exactly where the missing peace has been hiding, and how to stop treating "where you are" like a problem to escape.

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There's something that's been coming through for me lately that feels like the holy grail perspective. It's also something that's so easy to forget.

Here's what I want to talk about. It's not only about being tuned into where we're trying to get to.

The part that gets minimized, the part that matters just as much as that eye-on-the-prize fixation on where we want to be, is being just as grounded in and anchored to where you are right now.

I want to look at this from a couple of angles. The inner game, personal growth side of it. And the more practical, money-oriented, next-leveling side of it too.

My hunch is there's something here for you in remembering to apply this one piece: being just as grounded in where you are now to get where you want to go.

The State You Actually Get To

I want to start with the times I've landed in a very specific orientation toward the thing I want. The thing I'm calling in. The kind of orientation that ends up collapsing time.

I can always think back, not long right before it happens, to having landed in a very particular feeling state.

Here's an example. There was a pretty long stretch where I was starting to, thanks biological clock, really fantasize about family and children. I wasn't in a relationship at the time. I was single. I hadn't met my husband yet.

If you know me and know that story, you know it all happened very fast once I did meet him. But before that, this was just something I was holding in my awareness. My desires. My inner world.

And like I'm sure you can relate to, for something that felt really big, it felt like a really big ask.

I went through a lot of stages with it. It was a process of push and pull. Sometimes I felt the longing. Sometimes the frustration of how far away it felt. All these ways I just didn't feel fully aligned with that ask, or confident it was on its way to me.

There are different ways we can talk about this feeling space. But here's the thing about most of them. Similar to mantras with no behaviors to back them up, they're baseless.

There's a state you actually get to that makes it feel so much more true than just saying "it's on its way to me" or "I'm calling in this timeline."

Whatever your version is of speaking your belief and trust that the thing is coming, there's a very different place we get to when we actually feel it.

The Vision in the Car

To the point I'm making, this state really was so far from striving or longing.

When this moment happened, I wasn't even thinking about it a second before. An awareness just lit up in me. I noticed I was driving, sitting in the front seat of my car, and all of a sudden this profound sense of peace washed over me.

In every instance of this place, for me, it starts the same way. I feel so relaxed and settled. That feeling of I'm exactly where I need to be, when I need to be. Zero resistance to my current reality, to life, to the present moment.

The next thing I knew, I sensed a little boy sitting behind me in a car seat. And a husband sitting next to me in the passenger seat.

Again, this wasn't something I had actively visualized. It just showed up out of that feeling state.

It wasn't long after that I met my husband. Three months into our relationship we were pregnant. Ten months later my son was here.

I've had plenty of moments since of my husband in the passenger seat and my son in the backseat, on the right side, exactly where I saw him in that vision.

These are the moments I live for. I'm not one to try to pin down the magic behind what's happening when this happens.

But I do know there was some serious magic at play. A connection between two moments in time. A future time where what I want is actually real. And a present time where I'm so peacefully settled into exactly where I am right now.

It comes after I've gone to those other places first. The yearning. The longing. The impatience. The frustration.

Then on the other side of all that, I eventually land in a place of absolute peace and acceptance that it's not here yet. No resistance to the timing. No resistance to anything at all in this very moment.

It's when I finally arrive at that place that some kind of real, felt, embodied connection between present and future time shows up. And that's what brings the thing to me, fast.

Where Money Comes In

I'm going to be grounding this into your relationship with money. But that's not the only place this happens.

If you're a growth-oriented person, you have an awareness in every sector of your life of where you'd like to go. Where you're aiming next.

The move is to be absolutely at peace with where you are right now. How far along you are right now. What version of yourself you are right now, in the present moment.

Money is such a great example of what I'm talking about. Because when you really get on track for right relationship with money, it isn't a certain place you get to. There's no end of the road.

It's getting into an orientation with it where you're reliably able to grow your revenue to meet your growing desires and vision for your life, and the costs that come with them.

That's an orientation. A commitment to this principle. Knowing that to get where you want to go, you have to be okay where you are.

If it weren't for the future you're aiming toward, you wouldn't have progressed in the way that you have. You are poised in this present moment thanks to where you've been and where you're aiming.

This Is How Growth Works Everywhere

Here's one more example, outside of money, to really drive it home. This is literally how growth happens in any area.

Think about healing. Think about some of the more trauma-related, pattern-oriented shifts you've been able to make in your life.

Was it possible to get where you are now without first having compassion and acceptance for where you were, before that shift was even possible? Absolutely not.

Or think about other people in your life and the space you've been able to hold for them.

Think about partners you've had. Relationships where you weren't accepting someone where they were, and they were never able to change.

Then think about the ones where you genuinely felt compassion and acceptance for where someone was right now. And the space that created for them to evolve and grow into the version of them you knew was possible.

It works like that for them. It works like that for you. And it works like that with any earning level you're trying to reach.
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